When it comes to sex, everyone is trying to get some. It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you’re in unless you’re ACE you’re probably looking to get your dick wet or at least aren’t going to pass up ass if it’s offered to you.
After all, we’re only animals. Thank god most western and developed countries are going through a sort of sexual awakening. I don’t know how many more years of oppression the human race could stand before collectively exploding from frustration.
Finally, relationships and sexual habits that were once considered fringe (like swinging and experimenting) are finally considered somewhat normal. People are practicing nonmonogamy much more, and people are more open to playing around with their sexualities.
Naturally, technology has quickly caught up to the more open culture around sex. Before people were open about sex these sites existed, however now people are flocking as they’re becoming more comfortable with their sexualities.
Whether you’re urged by changing societal norms, a partner, a therapist, or this article to join an adult dating site, you ought to! However, you need to make sure that you’re not totally wasting your time with a bullshit site.
So, I – being the internet dating guru that I am – poked around some of the more popular adult dating sites and I’ve come up with a short, exclusive list of my favorites. Here are my top 3 adult sex dating sites that you should join if you’re looking to have sex, and have it soon:
Adult Friend Finder
When it comes to adult sex sites, I’d have to say this one was my favorite. They didn’t seem like they were trying to scam you out of anything and they seemed to want to create a community of like-minded individuals.
Upon signing up for this site, I immediately realized that this was going to be a good one. When you’re logging in and entering in your basic information, you’re met with a pretty simple yet representative list of choices for defining your gender, who you are, and what you’re looking for.
Instead of just having the simple binary options of male and female – with the addition of “couple” or the uncomfortably broad “other” – this site lets you define your gender as male, female, transgender, transsexual, or transvestite.
Also, if you’re a couple, you don’t have that simple of an option! You can mark if you’re a male/male couple, a male/female couple, or a female/female couple. You can also mark that you’re a group! This site caters to people of all genders, identities, and relationship situations.
You can also mark what people you’re interested in. So, if you’re looking to hook up with just men, there’s an option for you. Or if you’re looking to sample from every gender, feel free to mark them all!
I love how inclusive this site is for people in unconventional relationships and who exist outside of the gender binary.
Plus, this site has developed a community that isn’t just about finding matches. If you’re looking for advice on anything from polyamory to DP to swinging, you can find it on the message boards. If you’re looking to give your own advice feel free to write a blog! If you want to find some erotica to read, you best believe you can find it here!
I’d say that Adult Friend Finder’s Site comes pretty close to feeling like a vanilla version of Fetlife in the way that there is a community around a site that may have started as being centered around sex and connecting people.
The membership isn’t too bad in the grand scheme of things. However, there are other sites that are going to run you a little less money. But then again, if you want excellence you’re going to have to pay for it am I right?
While Adult Friend Finder is an app where you don’t have to upgrade to enjoy it, Well Hello definitely requires a membership to use. This is one of the reasons it’s at number two on this list.
When it comes to this site, you’re not going to be bored if you upgrade. This grid type dating site is fairly easy to use but has much more going on than just matchmaking.
Well Hello’s site has a full cam site integrated into it. So, while you’re waiting on your matches to reply to you, you can enjoy what some of the other users are getting up to on their webcams. If you haven’t found a live girl that tickles your fancy, you can scroll through some of the porn that’s hosted on the site. And if you’re not interested in that (for some reason) you can go through the user uploaded photos and videos. Provided you’ll have to upload to do any of these things, but that might be worth it for you.
While some hookup apps like to masquerade as some sort of pg-13 environment, Fling completely defies that convention. Instead of finding a homepage that looks like softcore porn or as a 50 Shades of Grey movie poster at its raunchiest, there are just tits and ass all over.
You definitely know what you’re getting into when you sign up.
Like some of the other sites on this list, Fling allows you to sign up as or look to hook up with couples! Again, this is a great feature for people who are looking to experiment in groups or spice up their relationship.
Again, if you’re bored with the dating app side of the site, you can always poke around on the live cams to see if any girl catches your interest. You’ll always have something interesting to look at on Fling.
However, you’re going to have to pay to use the full app if you’re a guy. They do this to keep dating sites from becoming total sausage fests, but I totally understand if you’d feel like this is unfair (which is one of the reasons why this app is at number 3 on this list).
If you’re looking for a site that has no problem with nudity in profile pics, then you’ll love this site. However, when I was logged in, I noticed that there might be some paid interaction going on… I’d just make sure who you’re talking to isn’t a bot and have fun!